First of all, Congratulations! You have taken a big step in your relationship and we know that you couldn't be more excited about your future together as husband and wife.
As with any major milestone in one's life (getting married one of the biggest), it can be a bit overwhelming. So many things to prepare for and your emotions may be all over the place – scared, nervous, joyful – all mixed up together.
With so many decisions to be made, it can be tough on anyone, in any relationship.
Planning a wedding in and of itself can be draining and stressful. Then once the I-dos are made, we move on to married life, which brings about another set of decisions and changes, that can also create some difficulties and stress.
However, we know that premarital counseling can greatly be beneficial, even to the most prepared couples. Being prepared is not a sign of doom but rather it's one of the first acts one can do to become a better partner, a better companion, and a better communicator.
Admiration and friendship are some of the key components in building a better relationship. You may admire many things about one another during the courtship but during the marriage, it is imperative that you continue to find and express that admiration from the smallest of things to the greatest.
Communication is one of the biggest hurdles in marriage. One of the keys is, how well do you listen? Do you utilize reflective listening?
Did you know that 60%+ of marital disputes never get resolved? So how do you work through them and still respect and love one another?
Knowing your partner and understanding their likes, dislikes, passions, and frustrations are key building blocks to intimacy.
Financial stress is always a difficult hurdle to overcome in a marriage. It's important that when a couple decides to become one, they join their finances as well. And if not, a firm discussion needs to be had so both understand and respect each other.
We live in the 21st century and some of the 1950s gender roles are unachievable. If the wife does not stay home, to take care of the house, what duties should the husband perform after work? Each of us was raised different and those influences during our childhood affect how we view the duties of a wife and the husband in a marriage. Sit down with one another and discuss the "ideal spouse" so you can catch a glimpse of what the other one expects out of marriage.
Children are always an important discussion to be had prior to saying "I do." Although people may change their view throughout the course of their life, it's important to discuss life-changing events and know the other one's stance. Is it a "hard stance" is it a "take it or leave it"?
Happy couples understand each other dreams and may not necessarily have the same dreams but they support each other and their dreams comingle to become "our dreams".
Don't let this overwhelm you but rather let it inspire you, as a couple, to begin a life-long relationship with the right tools and the right mental attitude!
When you decide to spend forever together, planning ahead is one of the best things you can do.
Premarital counseling will reduce the conflicts between each other and/or it will reduce the gravity of the conflicts between each other. Conflict resolution is one of the biggest stressors in a marriage and having the right tools will only set your marriage up for success!
Our trained professionals genuinely care about their clients. They are honored to have the opportunity to get to know you and your partner. Through individualized meetings, you'll be able to discuss topics important to you. Using tools, such as assessments, they can identify strengths in the relationship and areas of possible struggle. Identifying and talking about these possible triggers can go a long way in problem prevention. We believe that premarital counseling is one of the most beneficial decisions you can make – it helps to set your marriage up for success.
At Overcomers premarital counseling Colorado Springs, you'll find that our providers are genuine, flexible, responsive, on time and available. We don't have a waitlist and we can typically see you the same week you call, possibly within 24 hours.
You'll enjoy our complimentary coffee and tea while you relax in our waiting room. However, you won't be there for long, since 97% of our appointments begin on time. Our offices are modern and comfortable – providing a setting for a relaxed and enjoyable session.