Learn About Depression 

When you get involved in knowledge-based activities about depression, they can show you how to support your depressed partner as you will understand the condition better and learn ways to help them in the healing process.

In your learning, you will realize that your partner's depression may not have a negative reason. 

Usually, depression results from adverse events, but if you have been trying to pinpoint the negative trigger to no avail, this information can help you realize that your partner's depression doesn't have a negative reason.

Similarly, you will learn that depression is more profound than sadness, and it's more of an illness. 

The condition disrupts certain neurotransmitters in the brain, resulting in an imbalanced mental and physical state. 

People with depression usually report physical and mental weakness and fatigue.

As a silver lining, you will learn that depression is treatable since it can be regarded as an illness.

The treatment methods for depression include medications, therapy, and lifestyle changes, which you can introduce to your partner to help them recover fast.

Take Care of Yourself 

Involve a Professional Counselor 

As heroic as you may be feeling, depression is not a light condition that emotional home remedies can solely tackle. 

To support your depressed partner, you may need to involve a professional counselor to allow your partner to benefit from their expert advice and methods.

When your partner sees a counselor, the session will involve helping your partner realize the actual events that caused their depression. 

Pinpointing these reasons can help develop measures that will prevent their occurrence and the subsequent manifestation of depression.

Also, the counselor will help your plan set realistic goals in the path to recovery using their expert knowledge and proven methods. It's essential to let a counselor set the goals because they need to be measurable and achievable for easy achievement.

The professional counselor will also help your depressed partner develop the necessary skills to combat their episodes of depression and prevent such episodes. 

Don't Blame Your Partner 

If it ever becomes tiring for you to cope with your partner's mood swings, lethargy, and sadness, take a deep breath and calm down. To support your depressed partner, you need to encourage them and help them rather than blame them.

Avoid telling them to try harder to get out of the depression. It's not something they can easily turn off, and it's not like they also enjoy the negativity around it. 

Try to help in your ways and be patient with the methods to help improve their condition.

Similarly, you should not be dismissive of their condition because this will cause them more sadness. 

If you disregard the depression, they may feel unloved and alone in the world since you are their partner and you are supposed to be their emotional companion.

Ensure that you also don't resort to shaming them. 

A depressed person is constantly embarrassed by their situation, and you shaming your depressed partner will only cause them to feel more significant embarrassment and shy away from you.

Work With Them 

Going through thick and thin in your relationship involves you working together to create a stronger marriage. 

When you support your depressed partner by working with them to heal the condition, it will strengthen your emotional bond and create a more blissful marriage.

Working with them may mean talking to them about how they feel and asking them to help you understand it so you can somewhat realize the depth of the condition.

Furthermore, you can work with them by being involved in every activity that can help them heal and get back to their regular functioning schedules.

You can also attend their counseling sessions with them, enabling you to partake and help them answer some questions when they are too mentally fatigued to continue. 

Your presence in the sessions can also give them a source of familiarity and motivation to carry on with the counselor.

Conclusion

For better, for worse with your partner means you are with them through every event of joy or incident of sadness, celebrating or supporting them.

Thus, you can support your depressed partner by immersing yourself in learning about depression, engaging in self-care to get the mental fortitude to care for them, involving a professional counselor, making sure not to blame them, and working with them to help them heal.

Resources 

https://www.verywellmind.com/depression-facts-you-should-know-1067617

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-care-in-relationships-creating-me-time-within-we-0512165/amp/

https://www.apa.org/topics/depression/overcoming

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/5-ways-to-offer-support-when-your-spouse-is-depressed/

https://www.verywellmind.com/worst-things-to-say-to-someone-who-is-depressed-1066982

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325523#questions-to-ask-about-symptoms