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Signs of a One-Sided Relationship and How to Address Them
One of such signs that you are pulling the weight of the relationship is not being prioritized by your partner.
Another way to tell if your partner isn't performing their spousal duty to reciprocate love is a lingering sense of fulfillment in the marriage.
You can read on to know the signs of a one-sided relationship and how to address them:
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You are Not Their Priority
When you are not your partner's priority, it becomes relatively easy to see that you are in a one-sided relationship.
It may hurt to realize that you aren't their priority, but you have to discover if that's the truth in your relationship so you can address it.
If your spouse is making decisions without involving you, there's a significant chance that they don't consider you a priority anymore.
When they make solo decisions about a job switch, a new substantial investment portfolio, or a new hobby that takes up a lot of their time, that is a strong indicator that they don't prioritize your thoughts anymore.
Also, if you notice that they don't have time for you in their schedule, it may be because they no longer prioritize you.
When a partner that used to spend quality time with you before changes and spends more time with friends and other interests, it's evident that you have dropped in their order of priority.
Once you notice that this situation is going on in your marriage, be ready to take action to get the best out of your marriage.
Make sure you consider their actions well so you don't make errors in judgment.
Then you should confront them calmly and make them see how you have been hurt while suggesting how things can be better.
You are Putting in Most of the Effort
Equally, if you go all out for your partner's birthday, marriage anniversary, or other celebratory event and your partner never takes the initiative to plan your birthday or other events, it means they are not making any effort to make the marriage blissful.
After discovering this fact, it's essential that you sit them down and have a long, meaningful conversation with them.
There is a Lingering Sense of Unfulfillment
Primarily, the unfulfillment comes from a place of unmet expectations.
It becomes more saddening when you realize that subtly asking them to make efforts for you to be happy equates to begging for their love and attention.
However, you can address this by looking inward and analyzing your unmet expectations to verify if they are realistic.
You Make Plenty Excuses for Them
It's absolutely normal to make reasonable excuses for your partner when they do something you don't like, but when such instances become regular, it may be a sign that you should do something about it.
To address this issue, you have to make a conscious effort to review their actions thoroughly and think of how they could have dealt with their problems while still creating time for your happiness.
Unbalanced Financial Contribution
Suppose your financial plan was for you and your partner to contribute equally to the income.
The matter becomes more worrisome when their inability to contribute equally is due to their lack of effort to find a well-paying job or their desire to live off you.
Once you identify this sign in your marriage, you can address it by initiating a conversation about it, sharing the house's financial needs, creating a budget, detailing how much you should contribute, and planning with your partner to get them a good job.
Conclusion
Going from a blissful marriage to a one-sided relationship can creep up on you if you don't know the signs.
But if you know the signs, you can address them and ensure that the relationship is put back on the blissful track where you and your partner equally made efforts to strengthen the emotional bond.
The warning signs you should look out for include you not being their priority, putting in the most effort, having a sense of unfulfillment, making endless excuses for them, and contributing a large part of the finances.
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