How to Be a Good Companion to Your Spouse

Sometimes people take their spouses for granted. After all, we know them so well and we're used to being around them. But being a good companion to your...

Marriage
June 26, 2025

Sometimes people take their spouses for granted. After all, we know them so well and we're used to being around them. But being a good companion to your spouse is important - it can make or break your relationship. Here are some tips on how to be the best spouse you can be.

Respect your Spouse's Privacy and Personal Space

Respect is a crucial foundation in any lasting relationship, and it works both ways. While being married means you're close, it doesn’t mean invading your spouse's personal space or privacy whenever you feel like it. Everyone, even your spouse, needs time to recharge, so if they want some time alone, it’s not a sign of disinterest—it’s simply a need for space.

However, if your spouse starts consistently withdrawing from the relationship, it may signal something deeper that requires a conversation. Respecting their privacy and giving them personal space is essential for being a supportive and understanding partner.

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Don't Criticize Them in Front of Others

To be a good companion to your spouse, avoid criticizing them in front of others. Public criticism can deeply hurt your spouse’s feelings and make them feel inadequate. Instead, focus on their positive qualities to help build their confidence and make them feel valued. If you need to address something negative, do so privately to avoid making them feel put down in front of others.

Be Supportive and Understanding During Tough Times

Being a good companion to your spouse is truly tested during tough times. When things are going well, it's easy to be supportive, but adversity reveals the depth of your commitment. During these moments, you must be their rock and foundation—someone they can rely on no matter what. Being a good companion means being there for them, offering support and understanding, especially when it's difficult. So, remember, during challenging times, that's when your spouse needs you the most.

Give Them Time to Themselves, Without Feeling Guilty

To be a good companion to your spouse, it's important to give them time for themselves without feeling guilty. Having time apart allows both of you to miss each other and appreciate one another, and it can be used for hobbies, work, or simply taking a break. Feeling guilty about taking time for yourself can lead to resentment and harm the relationship. A healthy relationship requires balancing togetherness and independence, so learning how to respect each other's space is key.

Make Time for Each Other, Even When You're Busy

Being a good companion to your spouse involves making time for each other, even when life gets busy. This might mean setting aside time each week to talk or planning regular date nights. It’s easy to get caught up in daily routines and forget to nurture your relationship, but making time for each other strengthens your bond. By prioritizing time together, you create a more connected and fulfilling relationship. Don’t wait for the perfect moment—make time for each other from the start, and your relationship will thrive.

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Communicate Openly and Honestly

Good communication is essential in any healthy relationship, especially in marriage. When you share your life with someone, it's important to openly express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Without clear and honest communication, misunderstandings can arise, leading to conflicts. To maintain a strong relationship, it's crucial to ensure that you are always communicating effectively with your spouse.

If you're not sure how to do that, here are a few tips:

  • Always be respectful when you're communicating with your spouse. Even if you disagree on something, there's no reason to be disrespectful. Just remember to always communicate with kindness and understanding.
  • Learn to listen as much as you talk. When you're in a conversation with your spouse, really listen to what they're saying. Don't just wait for your turn to talk; try to understand their perspective.
  • Avoid making assumptions. It's easy to assume that we know what our spouses are thinking or feeling, but more often than not, we're wrong. If you find yourself making assumptions, try to check in with your spouse to see

Seek Help if Necessary

If you're having difficulty being a good companion to your spouse, it's important to seek help if necessary. There are plenty of resources available to help you strengthen your relationship. You can talk to a counselor, read books on marriage, and relationship experts, or even go to workshops or retreats.

Disclaimer

The content in this blog post should only be used for informational purposes. This content should not be used as a substitute for medical advice from a licensed professional.

Conclusion

Being a good companion to your spouse takes some effort, but it's worth it. It's important to make time for each other, communicate openly and honestly, and seek help if necessary. If you put in the work, you can have a healthy and happy marriage and a good companion for your partner.

Author

Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions

Questions about Marriage

Are there any limitations or restrictions on Tricare's coverage for marriage counseling?

Yes, Tricare only covers marriage counseling when diagnosed with mental health conditions. Marriage counseling services sought for general relationship issues not tied to a recognized mental health disorder will not be covered.

How Do I Communicate My Concerns?

When you're talking to your husband about codependency, it's important to: avoid judgment or criticism, focus on the behavior, not the person, express your concern and explain how the behavior is affecting you, and offer your support and encouragement.

How long does it take to teach persistence?

Teaching persistence is a long-term process that requires patience and commitment.

It may take months or even years to help your child develop persistence, but the rewards are worth it in the end.

How can I tell if my relationship is emotionally healthy?

There are a few key indicators that can help you to tell if your relationship is emotionally healthy. First, do you and your partner feel safe communicating with each other? Do you feel like you can express your emotions freely, without judgment or criticism? Are there mutual respect's needs and boundaries? Are you both willing to compromise when necessary? If you answered "yes" to all of these questions, then it's likely that you have an emotionally healthy relationship.

When should I consider going to therapy?

If you're struggling with abandonment issues, it may be helpful to seek professional support. Consider consulting a mental health professional if your feelings of fear or insecurity are impacting your relationships or daily functioning. No matter what, it's important to remember that seeking help is a sign of strength. Taking this step can be an important part of overcoming abandonment issues and improving overall well-being.

How can I make quality time for my spouse if we have busy schedules?

Prioritizing quality time together can be challenging with busy schedules, but it's important to make it a priority. Schedule date nights or make the most of the time you do have together, such as during meals or by planning activities that are quick and easy to do.

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