How to Cope With a Narcissistic Family Member

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A narcissist is someone who has an unreasonably high importance of themselves.

People with narcissism can be very manipulative and controlling.

They usually have a high sense of entitlement and are very manipulative.

Sometimes, it can be very challenging to Cope with a Narcissistic Family member.

A narcissist will try to gaslight you, oftentimes, they make you doubt your realities and make you feel like you are the problem.

Therapy for narcissistic people has proven effective to help maintain a healthy relationship with a narcissistic person.

You can cope with a narcissistic family member by avoiding confrontations with them.

Also, you can deal with a narcissistic family by setting clear boundaries.

You can build a support system and engage in therapy and counseling.

In dealing with a narcissistic family member, you will need to focus more on your peace and what you can control.

Another strategy to cope with a narcissistic family member is to reduce contact with them.

Here are 5 ways to cope with a narcissistic family member.

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Set Clear Boundaries and Stay Firm on Them

Narcissistic people usually do not have a sense of boundaries as they are too preoccupied with themselves.

You can cope with a Narcissistic Family member by setting boundaries with them.

Narcissists like to manipulate other people to meet their own needs.

As much as you should try to avoid confrontations with narcissistic family members, you should not enable them.

You can stop a narcissistic family member from speaking to you in a disrespectful manner.

You can also tell them firmly about other ill manners you will not tolerate from them.

Be sure not to compromise on your boundaries with a narcissist and always protect your own peace.

Narcissist will always try to push your boundaries, so make sure you stand firm on your boundaries.

Always remember that you have a choice to allow or not allow them to push past your boundaries.

Don't allow them to push past your boundaries.

If you find yourself in a situation where a narcissistic family member is pushing past your boundaries, repeat your stance firmly and calmly.

Don't allow them to push past your boundaries.

Setting clear boundaries may also include you learning how to say "no" to a narcissistic family member.

Avoid Confrontations with Them

You can cope with a narcissistic family member by avoiding confrontations with them.

Avoiding confrontations with a narcissistic person does not mean that you have to succumb to their demands, it is to protect your peace while maintaining your boundaries.

If you want to address an issue with a narcissistic family member, try to be strategic about the conversation so that it would not resolve into a conflict or endless arguments.

Do not feel compelled to explain or justify yourself as nothing you will do or say will satisfy a narcissist.

Narcissistic people usually don't have self-awareness and self-reflection, they will only try to play the victim.

Arguing back and forth with a narcissistic family member will tire you out.

Arguing will only make them defensive and emotional while taking more of a toll on your relationship.

So, it is best you state your position to them clearly and leave it at that without dragging it out with them.

When you see that your conversation with a narcissistic family member is getting heated, excuse yourself and leave the situation.

Most importantly, try to avoid any form of confrontation with a narcissistic person especially if you have no reason to.

Build a Support System

To cope with a narcissistic family member, you must build a good support system. Your support system can be through your friends and other family members.

They can help validate you and give you the backing you need.

You can also confide in your other family members as they may also be facing the challenges you are facing, they could give you the emotional support you need.

Telling people, you trust about your experience can help you deal with the situation as they can provide support and help to make you feel safe.

You can also join a support group.

A support group will allow you to share your story with others and also listen and learn from other people's stories.

You can also engage in therapy.

A therapist can view your situation from a professional angle and offer you useful tips.

Note that the utmost person you can learn to receive love and emotional support from is yourself.

Do not feel cast down by a narcissistic family member, practice self-love and compassion, and put yourself first.

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Focus on Yourself

You can cope with a narcissistic family member by focusing on yourself and what you can control.

You may already feel emotionally abused by a narcissistic family member, so you must be kind to yourself and have a lot of self-love.

Narcissists are typically very negative people, and interactions with them can make self-love even more difficult.

Maintain your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

You have to learn to ignore the negative energy coming from the narcissistic family member and not let it get to you.

Take measures to protect yourself and make the behavior of the narcissist family member less harmful to you.

Know when to leave the room when a narcissistic person is crossing your boundaries and break off contact with them when you feel it's necessary for your peace of mind.

You have to also reject your self-limiting beliefs as narcissistic people like to prey on one's insecurities.

To reject self-limiting beliefs, use affirmations, journaling, and self-compassion.

Instead, recognize that you are a valuable person who deserves to be loved and respected.

You have to take care of your physical, mental, and emotional needs.

You should believe that you are deserving of kindness, so choose to love yourself unconditionally regardless of what the narcissist says to tear you down.

Reduce or Eliminate Contact

When the behavior of a narcissistic family member starts to affect your mental health and your peace, you should try to reduce contact with them.

Reducing contact with a narcissistic family member will help you to maintain your peace of mind.

Consider restricting or discontinuing contact with a narcissistic family member who consistently violates your boundaries.

Limit how often you text them, answer their phone calls, or spend time with them.

If it becomes necessary, you can decide to cut the narcissist family member out of your life completely.

You're not a bad relative for keeping your distance from a toxic person.

Remember that you come first in loving and protecting yourself.

So it's important that you think about yourself first, and think of what is best for you.


You can cope with a narcissistic family member by avoiding confrontations with them, focusing on yourself, building a support system for yourself, setting clear boundaries with the narcissistic family member, and reducing contact with them.

You can also try to help a narcissistic family member by recommending to them therapy for narcissistic people.


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