5 Ways to Get Through to Your Grieving Student

5 Ways to Get Through to Your Grieving Student

In a time of constant loss and collective trauma, it's never been more important for you as a teacher to learn how to get through to your grieving student.

Although the developmental stage of a child is one factor that might affect how they respond to a loss, this doesn't mean they aren't affected by it.

Even if they don't seem to be affected by the loss of a loved one, it's possible that their behavior is a cover for their true feelings.

All grieving children and adolescents need constant care, reassurance, grief support, and love.

As a teacher, there are numerous ways you can get through to your grieving student.

To be able to get through to your grieving student, the students have to feel confident and comfortable enough to be able to communicate their feelings to you.

When you lay the foundation for openness, you are giving them the assurance that they can come to you to discuss whatever they are dealing with.

If you find out that they've experienced a loss, it's important to make an attempt to reach out to them.

This action demonstrates your concern for their well-being and love for them.

Also, you can try striking up a discussion with them every so often as well.

With time, talking to one another will become second nature.

Read on to learn more details about ways to get through to your grieving student.

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Lay the Foundation for Openness

Foster a setting where children feel safe discussing their experiences with death and loss.

Demonstrate to your pupils that you are willing to have open conversations about sensitive issues.

Offer a great deal of comfort.

This can be in the form of comfort words, hugs, and vocal reassurances may be more effective.

This could encourage them to return to you for this reassurance at other times.

Develop the practice of attentive listening; show up mentally and emotionally for talks with students and give them your full attention.

Let them know that they can come to you if they need help with something, no matter what.

If you do this foundation in the classroom, your students will know they can come to you with tough issues and that you will have helpful advice to share with them.

Don't only establish the groundwork for openness; be available.

Help your grieving student understand that you are here for them and they can count on you.

Make Contact After a Loss

If you learn that a student has suffered a loss, reach out to them.

A phone call to the student's or family's house to express condolences and support might be a good idea if you know them well.

Condolences and acknowledgment of a student's loss, even if you don't know them well, may be incredibly meaningful and comforting.

Also, if a kid is mourning, his or her loved ones need to know how the student is doing in school.

Get in touch with guardians or other responsible adults and work together to help the student through their grief.

If teachers and other school personnel are already informed and prepared to give appropriate assistance, pupils will find it much easier to return to class.

Find a Way to Start a Conversation 

Find a way to begin a conversation with them.

There are various ways to achieve this, such as asking them to help you with a task or maybe when you meet them somewhere outside of class.

It's possible that you'll decide to do something at school on a regular basis in the form of regular academic check-ins with your students.

This should be one-on-one moments with each student.

Through these check-ins, you are provided with a means to converse with them.

Give them opportunities to ask questions and share their thoughts, and then utilize those questions to steer the conversation.

Also, it's important to encourage your students to talk about their emotions but remind them to avoid becoming disruptive or unpleasant to their classmates.

Allow Them to Express Themselves 

Students who are going through a loss should be given the opportunity to express their emotions.

Listen attentively, validate their emotions, and refrain from passing judgment.

Talk about your emotions in a manner that is honest, comforting, and respectful, and that will perhaps lead other students to open up about their experiences with loss.

It's natural for different people to experience a range of emotions.

There is no "correct" way to grieve, so try to empathize with your students as they work through it.

Remember that some kids may have trouble putting their thoughts into words or just don't feel comfortable chatting with their peers at school.

Make sure these pupils are not pushed into making conversation.

Some people may find it easier to express their emotions via other means, such as writing, listening to music, or art.

Let pupils who have suffered a loss express their emotions when you talk to them.

Instead of trying to make them feel better, just be there and listen to what they're going through.

It's important to convince kids that they had nothing to do with their family member's death.

Reassuring them is important.

Keep in mind that practically all youngsters who have experienced a loss will experience guilt.

Offer Useful Resources 

Children who are mourning struggle to focus or learn.

They might need some more help in class, or maybe their schedule could be adjusted temporarily.

As soon as you see signs of trouble at school, jump in to assist.

Have conversations with your pupils, their parents/caregivers, and any other relevant parties.

Give students who have experienced a loss a hand in locating a nearby peer support group.

It's probable that they won't be alone in grieving the loss of a loved one.

Furthermore, you may arrange for class activities to assist pupils in expressing and coping with loss, whether it's only one student or a few.

Art, writing, dancing, listening to music, and working out are all examples of therapeutic pursuits.


The way one deals with loss has nothing to do with how strong or weak one is.

Although some students might feel they can handle their emotions on their own, they still need grief support from parents, guardians, or even their teachers.

Some ways to get through to your grieving student include laying the foundation for openness, making contact after a loss, finding a way to start a conversation, allowing them to express themselves, and offering useful resources.


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