How To Make Co-Parenting Work

How To Make Co-Parenting Work

For parents who are no longer together, co-parenting can be a challenge.

It is important to remember that even though you are not together as a couple, you are still working together as a team for the sake of your children.

Your children will be better off if you can find a way to get along and make co-parenting work.

Here are some tips on how to make co-parenting work.

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1). Communicate With Each Other Regularly 

It is important to maintain communication with your co-parent.

This means having a regular talk about the children and their needs. You should also be willing to compromise and adjust your parenting plans as necessary. Ways to communicate regularly are:

  • Schedule regular check-ins with each other (in person, via text, or email)
  • Have a parenting plan in place that outlines how decisions will be made about your children
  • Keep each other updated on important events happening in your child's life

If you need help communicating with your co-parent, consider using a co-parenting app or scheduling regular phone calls or video chats. 

2). Put Your Children First

Your children should always come first, no matter what.

This means putting aside your personal feelings and disagreements to do what is best for them.

Remember that your children did not choose to have parents who are no longer together, so it is important to not put them in the middle of any conflict.

Ways you can put your children first are:

  • Encouraging and supporting your children's relationship with the other parent
  • Resolving conflict in a constructive way that does not involve your children
  • Making decisions based on what is best for your children, not what is best for you

Instead, work together to provide them with stability and love.

3). Be Flexible & Willing To Compromise

There will be times when you will need to be flexible in your parenting plans.

Things come up and schedules change, so it is important to be able to adjust accordingly.

Likewise, there may be times when you need to compromise in order to meet everyone's needs.

Common ways to compromise include:

  • Taking turns having your children for holidays and special occasions
  • Finding creative solutions to problems that come up
  • Being willing to discuss changes to the parenting plan as needed

If you are able to be flexible and compromise, it will make co-parenting much easier for everyone involved.

4). Establish Ground Rules

The first step in making co-parenting work is to establish some ground rules.

You and your ex will need to sit down and figure out what you both expect from each other.

This includes things like how you'll communicate, what kind of schedule you'll keep, and who will be responsible for what tasks.

Other ground rules to consider could be:

  • How you will handle discipline
  • What the consequences will be for breaking the rules
  • How you will handle disagreements

By having a clear understanding of each other's expectations, you'll be able to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts down the road.

5). Seek Professional Help if You Need It

If you are having trouble making co-parenting work, don't be afraid to seek professional help.

There are many resources available to help parents who are struggling to get along.

You can talk to a therapist, join a support group, or read books or articles on the subject.

Some parents also find it helpful to attend co-parenting classes or workshops.

If you are struggling to make co-parenting work, don't hesitate to reach out for help.


How do I communicate with my co-parent?

The best way to communicate with your co-parent is to schedule regular check-ins (in person, via text, or email), have a parenting plan in place, and keep each other updated on important events happening in your child's life. If you need help communicating with your co-parent, consider using a co-parenting app or scheduling regular phone calls or video chats.

What should I do if my co-parent is not cooperating?

If your co-parent is not cooperating, the first step is to try to resolve the issue in a constructive way. If you are unable to reach an agreement, you may need to seek professional help or take legal action.

What are some common co-parenting mistakes?

Some common co-parenting mistakes include:

  • Trying to control the other parent
  • Arguing in front of the children
  • Speaking badly about the other parent to the children
  • Not being flexible or willing to compromise
  • Not establishing clear ground rules

How can I make co-parenting easier?

There are several things you can do to make co-parenting easier, including maintaining a positive relationship with your co-parent, being flexible and willing to compromise, establishing clear ground rules, communicating effectively, and seeking professional help if needed.

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Co-parenting can be tough, but it's possible to make it work. By following these tips, you'll be able to keep things running smoothly and make sure that your kids are getting the love and support that they need from both parents.

Our parenting counselors are here to help you and your family with such a major life transition. 

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